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It's important to recognise when someone is in an unhealthy relationship so they can get support, make changes, and feel better about themselves.
Healthy relationships are all about respect, communication, and compromise. It's important that everyone knows what makes a relationship healthy, and how to recognise the signs of an unhealthy or abusive relationship.
In healthy relationships people feel safe, supported, and loved. Healthy relationships are based on equality and respect, unhealthy relationships are based on power and control. Unhealthy relationships can become abusive and unsafe.
Or you might have noticed a change in them, but it’s something you can’t pinpoint. Maybe they’ve said something about the relationship, or done something that doesn’t seem quite right. Trust your instincts and start a conversation about how things are going.
If you’re worried about someone, talk to them. You can’t force someone to change who they are with, and you won’t be able to fix their relationship for them, but you can tell them you are concerned and you want to help.
It can be frustrating and upsetting to know someone you care about is in an unhealthy relationship. Here are some ways you can support them to get help:
Confidential Helpline: 0800 376 633
Youthline provides free phone, text, and email counselling support. It's website has information for youth dealing with challenging situations including how to recognise abuse and get support.
Confidential Helpline: 0800 456 450
This website has information about family violence, what it is, where to get help and how you can help if you know someone affected by it.
Confidential Helpline: 0800 733 843
Women’s Refuge helps young people identify, escape and shelter from abuse, so you can be safe, love life and experience all the world has to offer – including real love.
Sex’n’Respect works to create communities free of sexual violence; where young people are enjoying positive, respectful and pleasurable experiences of sexuality and relationships free of pressure, coercion, harm or violence.
You, Me, Us is a resource for queer, trans* and takatāpui people about having healthy relationships with each other, and what to do when things go wrong. You can also read more on Common Ground about sexual orientation and gender identity.